week 7 | 2012

2012, Photography, Project

My son has autism. I mentioned it before, I know, but this week we at home more than ever before witnessed it. He is entering puberty, everything seems to change. Securities that he got familiar with seem to fall apart. Everyday this week we witness a full area of his emotions, many he can hardly comprehend and some he can only barely describe. Again we learned and realized that nothing is obvious.

And it is also a constant reminder that anything we do makes sense.

All photographs by Wouter Brandsma


21 thoughts on “week 7 | 2012

  1. Hi Wouter, we have two daughters in puberty right now, and that’s hard enough as it is, can’t imagine how it would be like for your son…
    About your photo’s; the first one I find absolutely amazing! you’re inclined to bend over to see what happens under the sign…

      1. Thanks! Hope you can still find your time now and then to take your beautiful pictures…
        Wish you and your family all the best for the difficult puberty-times to come… and most often it’s the best thing you can do; take it day by day.
        Have a great sunday!

    1. We don’t think it is a disease. He is just different and unique. He is amazing and rewarding to us. It is a disease for those who are not willing to adapt. And by those I don’t mean them with autism, but the rest of us.

      It hits you a hard when a child is full of anxiety, fear, and uncertainties.

      1. Sorry for the careless terminology; autism is, of course, a neurological, developmental disorder, not a disease at all. I have had some tangential experience with the condition as a niece of my (now) ex-wife had a little boy with profound autism and her/their challenges I saw some of first hand. Changes that were hard normally (whatever that is) were harder on everybody, the autistic child, siblings, and parents alike. I wish you all well.

  2. I think I remember you saying your son has autism. I don’t know if you’re familiar with Boy Scouts, but both of my sons are involved and I am too as an Assistant Scoutmaster. There are two boys in our troop that have autism and we go out of our way to ensure they feel comfortable and do our best to provide them a positive experience. One of the boys lives with only his mother. You can see in her the challenges she faces daily raising a child with this disease. We love her son as he can be a real hoot to be around but then there are those times when it all breaks down. So I’ve only seen a tiny microcosm of the challenges you’re working with and hope your photography helps in those ways we can never know to bring some balance in your life Wouter. We can all pray that someday a cure will be found but until then we just have to love one another and help each other the best we can.

    1. I use my photography to find balance. Therefore my PAD project also turned into something more personal.

      I don’t think there will ever be a cure available, unless we are willing to change. Especially after WWII we stepped up the pace in our societies making it harder for all of us to follow. And each and everyone who drops out gets either ignored or labeled. We categorize the dropouts, and instead of adjusting the pace so they can follow us, we try to ignore them and consider it to be a problem.

  3. Wouter,

    nr 3; how did you get that cloudy kind of vignetting on the left?

    nr 5: i’ve tried a few brandsmakes myself, these are challenging

    nr7: the bike is my fav

    our jongest also makes life a bit more challenging than other kids, its not a disease, its simply what he is, character.

    1. The vignetting in image #3 is likely the result of the available at that early morning, light reflection on the center cloud from nearby light, and the vignetting of the lens at f/1.7.

      A character can change, Bart. Autism not.

  4. This week of yours I’m looking at things that seems to vanish & I tell myself that something new is just coming up. Crawled through the darkness just to find me in bright sun light. The willingness to adapt things one can hardly describe & find a very own through the jungle is what it’s all about. Every day. Thanks for reminding of that, Wouter. And thanks to your son for making it possible for us to see.

    Hitting the road to end in your beauties is worth every step. No matter how hard they may seem, because nothing is obvious.

    All the best & safe travels, Fritsch.

    1. I really needed some time this week to take some distance from the previous one. It had hit me hard. I still find it difficult to look back at these photographs. I thought I witnessed no progress, both with my son and in my photographs. And yet it is still a reminder that it is a personal reflection, I guess.

  5. I see the weather is gloomy up there and that doesn´t help in keeping the spirits high. As you said, living one day at the time is the answer. There will be sunny days to compensate for the dark ones and photography to make you better understand the meaning of both.
    All the best for you and your family.

  6. Wouter,

    The frame of the mini does it for me. It screams cheekiness.

    I’m curious to know the background of this image. Is this car there (parked in the same place) all of the time? and if it isn’t the first time you have strolled past this mini, is there anything different that made this composition ‘jump out’ at you.

    A bit of a strange question I know, but essentially I guess I’m trying to figure out how you ‘saw’ this photo.

    Anyway, thank you for the updates i’m looking forward to this weeks imagery. I’ve spent the last couple of days thoroughly enjoying taking pictures, I haven’t ‘officially’ committed to a PAD project – but I can ceratinly see it happening!

    Kind regards,

    Matt Kirwan

    1. That Mini is there only a few times a month, but everytime on the same spot. Looking at the head lights they reminded me of a child trying to hide behind a tree, but still anxious to see what is coming ahead.

      Centering the tree in my composition it us immediately what attracts the eye and I give it the opportunity to look left or right.

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